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- Lorie Marrero, CPO®
Creator of The Clutter Diet

E is for "Effective"

This is the second post in a series on our N.E.A.T.E.R. definition of what it means to be organized. For the next few weeks I will talk more in depth about what each one of these words means.

Our Definition of "Organized:" 

Not Perfect, but...
Effective- doing what works best
Always improving
True to your style
Efficient- not wasting time and energy
Ready for anything- being prepared for life

(NEATER acronym © 2006-2009, Clutter Diet, Inc.)

Effective means doing what works. Being organized means that things generally run well in your home, and that is going to look different for everyone and be very personalized to your family and your situation.

I once spoke to a single man who lived in a small apartment with minimal kitchen cabinet space. He simply stored all of his everyday dishes in the dishwasher and ran it every night, clean or dirty! He fixed the storage problem and also kept himself from having to put all of the dishes away after washing. It was a very "bachelor" kind of solution, but it worked. Do whatever reasonably produces the intended effect!

Many moms out there will relate to having a child that goes through a peculiar eating phase, such as wanting to have the same, exact peanut butter and jelly sandwich every day for lunch for weeks on end. It may be lacking in nutritional excellence, but it is a temporary phase and he won't starve. So go with it-- IT WORKS for your family for the moment. It's okay.

So go ahead and use a Velveeta box for a drawer divider, let the kids wear mismatched pajamas if they really want to, and hand-write the labels for your file folders instead of printing them from your computer. Use what you have...don't sweat the small stuff... and bloom where you're planted! It's good enough and so are you.

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Holiday Planning- Just Do It!

When I was in high school and college, I had this procrastination habit of doing all of the little nagging things I “needed” to do first before sitting down to do the hard work of writing a research paper. I would make my bed, clean my room… I would organize things… I would make sure everything was all sewn up and done. It was good for knocking out a bunch of things on my list, but it was bad for the reason that I burned up important time that should have been used for writing my paper. The addictive element of this procrastination habit was that the tiny tasks felt “productive,” so it was an excellent rationalization.

 

Right now it’s time to prepare for the very imminent holidays, and what I see people doing a lot is looking for holiday “tips”—reading articles about reducing holiday stress, collecting new recipes, and watching TV segments with holiday gift ideas. Now, I am a Human Tip Dispenser, and I write tips every day on Twitter and put them out in the media frequently… BUT…

 

Tips help some, but they are NOT the answer-- MASSIVE ACTION is the answer. There is no substitute for sitting down with a pad of paper and actually doing the work of your own real-life holiday planning, and then getting in your car and doing the errands and the other work required to make it happen. Don’t fool yourself! It’s time to do this, right now.

 

Here are some categories you can think through for your planning: 

• Overall timeline for holidays
• Meal/event planning
• Guest arrangements
• Travel arrangements
• Gift purchasing & shipping
• Holiday card production & mailing
• Shopping for food
• Baking ahead
• Entertainment & activities
• Decorating & crafts

Sit down today and start writing some things down! You don’t need a specially decorated notebook, your laundry doesn’t have to be done first, and your kitchen doesn’t have to be perfectly clean. Just do it. Report back here in the comments!

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N is for "Not Perfect"

I recently saw a feature on getting organized in the media showing a home that was about as perfect as it could possibly be. I understand wanting things to look nice for the camera (believe me, when a camera crew comes to my house, I do straighten up!), but I want to make sure that people know organizing is not about being perfect. As I have said before, we teach that you should strive to be N.E.A.T.E.R.:

Not perfect, but...
Effective- doing what works best
Always improving
True to your style
Efficient- not wasting time and energy
Ready for anything- being prepared for life

(NEATER acronym © 2006-2009, Clutter Diet, Inc.)

This is the first post in a series on our N.E.A.T.E.R. definition, to talk more in depth about what each one of these words means.

I really think that a lot of "suffering" is caused out there from people having misconceptions about what it means to be organized.

There is not an organized "nirvana" out there that your co-worker, your sister-in-law, or even your friendly neighborhood professional organizer has attained where she sits on high meditating and enjoying the hum of a spectacularly efficient home. EVERYONE has disorganized areas of their lives at any given time-- a closet, a drawer, a messy desk... Getting organized does not mean that nothing ever goes wrong, that the dog doesn't barf on the carpet, or that your kids suddenly start doing the dishes. Life still happens.

I remember when I first started attending NAPO events as a new organizer...I thought I had to have my ducks in a row, by golly, when I showed up to a meeting! I better be on time, I better have my notes in a perfect little portfolio with labeled folders, and heaven forbid I would forget my business cards! I figured out really quickly that everyone there was human too. Organizers are occasionally late to meetings, and there have been many times that we have laughed with each other over a forgotten item or a missed detail. When we go to our national conferences, invariably someone still forgets her toothbrush or misses her plane. This realization really put me at ease!

Don't forget that when you see a home in a magazine or on TV that it has often been carefully staged by interior designers and stylists, sometimes for hours. It does not always represent how people actually live, and it creates an unrealistic ideal that people have a hard time living up to. It's very much like women having body-image problems from rail-thin, airbrushed models being held up as the ideal. Don't fall for this trap! Your home is going to be lived in and loved-- it's not supposed to be a museum. I preach the gospel of Good Enough!

Next week I will be exploring the next letter, E for Effective. Have you given up the pursuit of perfection? Share in the comments! See also my previous posts, "The Paradox of Perfectionism," and "2:30--The Perfect Time."

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3 Tips for an Organized Thanksgiving

This Thanksgiving, why not plan ahead and give thanks to YOURSELF for being so organized? Imagine enjoying the preparations and festivities more and not feeling so rushed and scattered! Here are a few tips to help:

1. Shop smart & avoid last-minute grocery trips. Here's a great tip from my own mom: Right now, in advance, write up your typical family favorites menu of Thanksgiving (and December holiday) dishes... you know, the dishes that must make an appearance each year or else! In my family, a riot would break out if I didn't make the traditional crescent rolls and we didn't have my mom's pies. Make a corresponding grocery list for each dish. Save this as a document on your hard drive, and re-use it every year! Makes planning, delegating, and shopping incredibly easy. (See also my previous post, "Things People Usually Forget to Buy at Thanksgiving.") Also remember to shop EARLY and avoid the rush!
2. Be deliberate about delegating. Sure, most of the time you can get help in the kitchen fairly easily on Thanksgiving Day from kind family volunteers. But why not be deliberate about it? We have done this in our family, and people really appreciate the freedom of knowing they have done their part and can relax. I know I have definitely experienced feeling "guilty" if I am not in the kitchen until the whole thing is entirely cleaned up and finished. When you assign roles everything gets done and everyone feels more relaxed. Even the teenagers and the football watchers can do something! You can assign dish washing, dish drying, clearing the table, setting the table, carving the turkey and ham, whipping the cream, or whatever you like. And of course, you can delegate preparation of various dishes well in advance of the big day. 
3. Plan beyond the big feast. Many times on Thanksgiving the festivities last into the weekend and family is visiting from out of town. Remember to consider your leftovers and plan menus to feed everyone throughout the time you'll be together. Soups are easy and satisfying, and of course there is always the good old turkey sandwich. Click here for a link to some great Thanksgiving leftover recipes to help. Planning activities is also a good idea, since people can get tired of television and sitting around digesting. At our house we like to play card games and board games. We organized a big tournament one year with a tally board and everything! Think about places that your visitors might like to go and organize a trip out to someplace other than the shopping mall. (See also my previous post, "Make a 'Tourist Binder'")

We are celebrating twice this year-- we already had a Thanksgiving meal together in October when my brother was recently on leave from Iraq. We'll be thinking of him a lot on the real Thanksgiving. What are your favorite Thanksgiving traditions and tips?  Share in the comments!

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Windex Here, Windex There, Windex Everywhere?

People often ask me how to organize their cleaning supplies... the main question being whether you should store the supplies together in a central location, or have duplicate supplies throughout the house in each bathroom or on each floor? The answer-- it depends! Let's look at some of the factors:

• Who is cleaning? If you have a housekeeper, that person is likely cleaning in "one fell swoop" throughout the house. The best approach for this is to have the supplies centralized in one place, like the utility/laundry room, with a carrying caddy that is used to easily bring the supplies from room to room.
• Are you a Batch Processor, or a Continuous Processor? I wrote a blog post about this a long time ago (click here to read "How Baking Cookies Relates to Procrastination"), about whether you prefer to batch tasks up and do them all at once vs. doing tasks as they come and handling them in "real time." If you like to clean your bathrooms as you go, such as wiping up the mirror as soon as you notice spots, you will want to keep at least a few frequently-used cleaning supplies in each bathroom. Batch Processors are probably going to clean in "one fell swoop" like a housekeeper, so the centralized approach would be better.
• Do you have good storage where you want it? If you have storage space that is adequate for cleaning supplies in each bathroom, that's great, but if there is only a pedestal sink and nothing else, the centralized approach might be better for you.
• Do you have multiple floors in your home? If you have 2 (or more) floors, you might consider having a duplicate set of supplies for each floor. You could have one centralized caddy for each floor with all supplies, or you could have supplies in each bathroom. If it makes sense, you have the storage, and you have access to another vacuum cleaner, it can be wonderful to have a vacuum on each floor. We once had a central vac system, and you had only to carry the hose around and plug it into the outlet. We ordered a second hose unit for the upper floor so we'd have even easier access.

The perfect compromise:  Have one centralized set of cleaning supplies with a large carrying caddy, then have a few quick-cleaning wipes in each bathroom to touch-up. Disinfectant wipes are so great for touching up right before someone rings the doorbell, or for homes with, ahem, lots of boys... The centralized approach is also better overall for shopping efficiency (knowing when you need to buy things). Getting a large, sturdy cleaning caddy is really key, so choose wisely!

There is not any giant rule from above about these things-- it's whatever works for you! What have been your solutions? Share in the comments!

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I Can't Change...That's Just The Way I Am!

When I worked in Corporate America years ago, I had a terrible boss (as many of you have). He would say all of the politically correct things about wanting "feedback," but when you told him something constructive about his management style, he'd reliably say, "That's just the way I am."

What a communication killer and conversation ender! What he was really saying: "I believe this is a quality I cannot change, and I have no intention of putting any effort toward changing it."

One of the biggest lessons of my life has been that my own limiting beliefs are what hold me back. Here are some of the limiting beliefs I have heard from our members and clients over the years:

• "I'm just not an organized person."
• "I'll never get control of this mess."
• "Organizing is a battle I'll never win."
• "I'm a messy person... It's just the way I am."

Henry Ford said, "Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right." If you think that being disorganized is just how you are, then no matter what blog or book you read or expert you hire to help you, you absolutely will continue to be disorganized. Your belief is the first thing that must change. Our language defines us, especially the language we use with ourselves.

Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
-Author Unknown

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Oh, Goody! It's National Clean Out Your Files Month!

October is National Clean Out Your Files Month. I know, I know... it's so wonderful, but PLEASE, contain yourself!

I typically recommend two times of the year to clean out your files. You can either do it now during its "appropriate" month, or you can do it in April right after you have done your income tax return. I prefer April, and I do it once a year only. April feels really good because you know you can safely archive things from the immediately previous calendar year. If you want to do it twice a year, you can do your major archiving of financial paperwork in April and go through the content of files on other topics in October. These two recommended times are six months apart, so that works out well.

Here are some of my favorite file management tips to motivate you and inspire you, should you decide that this celebration merits some appropriate filing festivities:

• Invest in good quality filing cabinets and supplies. This does NOT mean spending a lot of money. If your city has a used office furniture liquidator, you can get killer deals on scratch-and-dent filing cabinets there (along with shelving, desks, and even sticky notes and markers sometimes!). You can also check thrift stores. Test the drawers before buying to make sure they work smoothly. I believe in using hanging file folders, and I do pay a little extra for the better quality ones so that the metal pieces don't come unglued and fall out easily.
• Don't stuff your file drawers too full. How many of you are avoiding filing because you can't stand plunging your hand into the tight drawer, getting paper cuts, and fighting to get the papers into the folders? Adjust your drawer space so that you can easily get the folders in and out and leave some room to grow, too. If you are running out of space, guess what? It's National Clean Out Your Files Month! Go for it! You can also archive older files to another location to free up some space.
• You have my permission to NOT use manila interior folders inside the hanging folders...unless you want to! But if you're just filing reference material that may not be accessed for a long time, you really don't need to use an interior folder. Use the manila folders if you'll be accessing the information frequently or taking it with you away from the office.
• Box-bottom folders can be just the right solution if you have some thick files. I like the 2-inch capacity size. These are specialty hanging folders that have a creased edge on the bottom to expand and hold a big chunky pile of paper. That is, if you must keep it that way.
• Always ask yourself, "Can I get this electronically instead?" If the answer is yes, and you have a great backup system, please shred and/or recycle that file!

So break out the champagne, or at least order a pizza, and get those files in order. What's your approach to your filing system? Do you have files, piles, stacks, or boxes? Share in the comments!

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4 Ways Clutter Can Kill Your Sex Life

Yes, you heard me correctly... I am talking about how clutter affects your time in the bedroom. Although I am not privy to exactly what goes on behind closed doors, I have seen a lot of marital conflict during my 9 years as an organizer, and I have seen a lot of messy spaces that go with it, so I am drawing my own conclusions... here are four more reasons you might want to get organized:

1. Disorganization increases conflict. I have personally witnessed arguments over piles of paper and "stuff," disagreement over the use of a space, and anger over excessive shopping. Conflict and frustration also surround lost items, wasted money, and wasted time. Conflict is not conducive to intimacy!

2. Physical clutter in the bedroom, even on the bed, may literally be in the way. I have seen some bedrooms that would be difficult to sleep in, much less, well... you know. If clutter is overtaking the flat surfaces in your room, it may be impairing your ability to enjoy the space. Enough said.  ;)

3. Clutter in the bedroom reminds you of other parts of your life that might be stressful. Piles of laundry, piles of work materials, kids' toys, paperwork, and other similar stressful clutter means that you are reminded of those things constantly as you look around. You also wake up to that every day and are instantly reminded again of the undone work and cleaning demands. It's not very romantic to look around you and see your unfinished stack of employee reviews, your husband's unfolded underwear, and some Dora the Explorer toys, and then step on a few Barbies or Bratz dolls on your way to the bathroom. Imagine a relaxing space that is just for the two of you... a place of rest and renewal that is an oasis from your daily stress.

4. Clutter steals your time and energy-- time and energy you could be spending on your relationship. As I say in my book, all clutter is ultimately just delayed decisions and delayed actions. It's very much about procrastination. Deciding where to keep it, whether to keep it, what to do to dispose of it, etc. It saps your time away every day, little by little. Each item is something that individually pulls on you and drains your energy until you decide what to do with it and then take action. Imagine having all of that time and energy back-- reclaimed-- to spend on your partner! We're talking about some serious sparks!

Has clutter affected your relationship? Does one of you have a disorganization problem that has spilled over into your intimate time? Have you successfully solved this and want to share your tips? DO TELL--in the comments!

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Check Us Out When You Check Out at the Supermarket!

Just can't help myself... I had to mention to my beloved blog readers to check us out in FOUR magazines this month! They are November issues but they come out in October, so they are all on the newsstands right now. When you're checking out at the supermarket, you can thumb through and find me!

• Nov. Better Homes & Gardens, page 78 (cover headline "12 Smart Ways to Organize Your Closet"- also features our product, the Simple Division® Garment Organizers)
• Nov. 1, Family Circle, page 147 (cover headline: "Declutter Your Life")
• Nov 3, Woman's Day, page 100 (cover headline "5 Clutter Busters- They'll Surprise You")
• Nov. Good Housekeeping, page 180, "21 Ways to Make an Entrance" (about entryways)

Also note-- I am doing a contest with Good Housekeeping right now where the big winner gets me in his/her house for two days with $1000 of products from the Container Store. Enter the contest here at http://budurl.com/ghclutter. Other prizes include memberships to our program, phone consultations with me, and autographed copies of my book The Clutter Diet: The Skinny on Organizing Your Home and Taking Control of Your Life. The contest entries close on November 30, 2009.

I hope you like the articles! Thanks for sharing my joy!

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Yes, You CAN Buy Time...

It's fundraiser season again... time to buy your school's gift wrap, your scout's popcorn, and your football team's coupon books. We all wish this would be unnecessary, but it appears to be here to stay. Think about it, though-- what is your personal time worth to be handling these sales and deliveries with your child? Would you be better off just writing a personal check to the organization instead and dispensing with the whole ordeal? Spending some time cuddling up with your child eating popcorn rather than walking around the block delivering it?

My children's school has successfully done the "No Hassle Fundraiser" for several years. They say, basically, "Yes, we could make you sell gift wrap or magazines or candy, but you don't want to do that, do you? Why don't you just write us a check and we'll forget the whole thing." And I HAPPILY write that check. My kids have not sold anything as fundraisers for a long time. Everyone is very happy about this approach because they value the time savings, and not selling this stuff to each other means LESS CLUTTER too.

I really encourage people to look at the value of their time and be selective about spending it! Sometimes it absolutely makes sense to trade dollars for more time, outsourcing tasks like oil changes and lawn-mowing, for example. But think about it even for things you think you "have to" do, like the school fundraisers. This "How Much Is Your Time Worth?" calculator from MSN.com allows you to plug in your own information to find the actual value of your leisure time by the hour. If you are a stay-at-home-mom, use this Mom Salary Wizard calculator to find the value of the ten+ jobs you are doing!

Whether or not you come up with an actual number per hour, remember that you can always get more money, but you can NEVER get more time. If you waste it, it's gone. It is the most precious commodity we have. What other obligations could you make disappear with a smart decision? Share your thoughts in the comments! (Thanks so much to Anne for this blog idea!)

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